I don't think it is that you forgot, it is that the everyday memories become the norm, versus the marking of the day you lost her. I think about my dad all the time, but have to stop and think about the actual date that he died. I think it is a moving on to the true celebration and memory of a life, not marking the anniversaries of a death.
Over the years I've lost some close friends and relatives, but my folks are both still around. I don't even like to think about it because I'm going to be a total mess and a recluse when that day comes. I guarantee it.
Although I am unable to relate to the loss of a mother or father and the emotional tornado that sticks around long after, I'm pretty sure Harper nailed it with her last sentence above!
I was 26 when I lost my parents, one after the other. It was a shock. I had two young children. The everyday life and struggles took over. And I didn't think of them often except at certain holidays. Then I reached 55, and I woke up one morning sobbing my heart out. I missed my mother dreadfully, as I had never missed her before. I wanted her so much to be with me and to say, "You've done a good job, Claude. You raised your boys well. I'm proud of you." That's when we truly miss our parents. We need the praise and the appreciation they gave us when we were growing up and doing the right things.
You remember your mother, Kerrcarto, every time you teach your children what she taught you. It's the best way to honor her. Warm regards to you and family!
Kerrcarto....Tuesday is my Mothers birthday ....she would be 100 if she were still here.She used to call me several time a week at work just to say hello.It has been 23 years & I still look at the phone from time to time ......regretting it does not ring from her anymore. Harper is right but I just cannot forget how fortunate I was to have had the mother I was blessed with, she sure put up with a lot from my antics as I grew up, just remember,you are not ever to old to say ..........Mom, I love & miss you . Take care my friend..dudley1
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I have taken more out of alcohol than alcohol has taken out of me.
~Sir Winston Churchill
To alcohol, the cause of, and solution to, all of life's problems.
~Homer Simpson
A woman drove me to drink and I didn't even have the decency to thank her. ~W.C. Fields
Beer is living proof that God loves us and wants us to be happy. ~Benjamin Franklin
I hate to advocate drugs, alcohol, violence, or insanity to anyone, but they've always worked for me. ~Hunter S. Thompson
I feel sorry for people who don't drink. When they wake up in the morning, That's as good as they're going to feel all day. ~Frank Sinatra
Here's to a long life and a merry one A quick death and an easy one A pretty girl and an honest one A cold beer and another one! ~Author Unknown
Once during Prohibition, I was forced to live for days on nothing but food and water. ~W.C. Fields
Well ya see, Norm, it's like this.... A herd of buffalo can only move as fast as the slowest buffalo. And when the herd is hunted, it is the slowest and weakest ones at the back that are killed first. This natural selection is good for the herd as a whole, because the general speed and health of the whole group keeps improving by the regular killing of the weakest members. In much the same way, the human brain can only operate as fast as the slowest brain cells. Excessive intake of alcohol, as we know, kills brain cells. But naturally, it attacks the slowest and weakest brain cells first. In this way, regular consumption of beer eliminates the weaker brain cells, making the brain a faster and more efficient machine. That's why you always feel smarter after a few beers.
~Cliff Clavin
Without question, the greatest invention in the history of mankind is beer. Oh I grant you that the wheel was also a fine invention, but the wheel does not go nearly as well with pizza.
~ Dave Barry
When I read about the evils of drinking, I gave up reading.
~Henny Youngman
Our Lager which art in barrels Swallowed be thy drink At home, as it is in the tavern Forgive our spillages As we forgive those who spill against us Lead us not into incarceration But deliver us from hangover For thine is the beer, the bitter and the barley. Barmen ~The Beer's Prayer
Alcohol May Be Man's Worst Enemy
But The Bible Says Love Your Enemy
~ Frank Sinatra
That's the problem with drinking, I thought, as I poured myself a drink…If something bad happens you drink in an attempt to forget; if something good happens you drink to celebrate; and if nothing happens you drink to make something happen. - Charles Bukowski
The liver is evil and must be punished. - Author Unknown
I would kill everyone in this room for a drop of sweet beer. -Homer Simpson
Write drunk; edit sober. - Ernest Hemingway
I take every day one beer at a time, one beer every sip at a time. - Dennis Leary
Alcohol doesn't solve your problems...but then,neither does milk. - W.C. Fields
"Not all chemicals are bad. Without chemicals such as hydrogen and oxygen, for example, there would be no way to make water, a vital ingredient in beer." ~ Dave Barry
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I don't think it is that you forgot, it is that the everyday memories become the norm, versus the marking of the day you lost her. I think about my dad all the time, but have to stop and think about the actual date that he died. I think it is a moving on to the true celebration and memory of a life, not marking the anniversaries of a death.
Over the years I've lost some close friends and relatives, but my folks are both still around. I don't even like to think about it because I'm going to be a total mess and a recluse when that day comes. I guarantee it.
Although I am unable to relate to the loss of a mother or father and the emotional tornado that sticks around long after, I'm pretty sure Harper nailed it with her last sentence above!
I was 26 when I lost my parents, one after the other. It was a shock. I had two young children. The everyday life and struggles took over. And I didn't think of them often except at certain holidays. Then I reached 55, and I woke up one morning sobbing my heart out. I missed my mother dreadfully, as I had never missed her before. I wanted her so much to be with me and to say, "You've done a good job, Claude. You raised your boys well. I'm proud of you." That's when we truly miss our parents. We need the praise and the appreciation they gave us when we were growing up and doing the right things.
You remember your mother, Kerrcarto, every time you teach your children what she taught you. It's the best way to honor her. Warm regards to you and family!
Kerrcarto....Tuesday is my Mothers birthday ....she would be 100 if she were still here.She used to call me several time a week at work just to say hello.It has been 23 years & I still look at the phone from time to time ......regretting it does not ring from her anymore.
Harper is right but I just cannot forget how fortunate I was to have had the mother I was blessed with, she sure put up with a lot from my antics as I grew up, just remember,you are not ever to old to say ..........Mom, I love & miss you .
Take care my friend..dudley1
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